Since when has recklessly sleeping around become a social norm?
I keep seeing memes on my Insta feed about women “just wanting dick” and it’s sickening. WTF is going on with this world? Now, keep in mind that this article is NOT one-sided – I believe it’s just as bad to sleep around with countless partners whether you’re male, female, transgender, gender-neutral or whatever else you identify yourself as. It’s primarily a sign of an unhealthy mind that needs professional help. Before you go batshit crazy on me, let me explain my point of view.
In this particular post, I’d like to focus on the female perspective. If you think that using men for sex is going to make you an independent woman who’s equal to men, think again. The only thing that this act actually does is feed into your deeply rooted daddy issues a.k.a. emotional traumas. The whole thing inevitably ends up breaking you even more than you already are. Recklessly sleeping around with multiple partners is unhealthy.
More often than not, women who “just want dick” are trying to fill a void inside their hearts that was left there by another man. So they start to live their lives as if they have no feelings or emotions. The first thing that comes to mind as I’m writing this is our generation’s new trend of “not catching feelings” which is a very popular expression on social media today – it’s just one big mess, my friends.
Anyway, women who are emotionally hurt tend to stay away from meaningful relationships to avoid getting hurt again. Instead of dealing with their emotional trauma, they choose to ignore the issue altogether and fool themselves into thinking that, from now on they “just need dick” and they will never “catch feelings” again, because that would make them weak. In reality, what these women need is a good therapist, so that they can get over their fear of men and start living again.
Avid polygamy enthusiasts who say that polygamy is natural, I invite you to do some research on this subject matter. As it turns out, neanderthals (a species of archaic human that we are today) turned into homo sapiens (human beings) the moment they stopped being polygamous. Instead, they turned to monogamy where a male would protect and stick to his female partner along with their offspring. As a result, offspring mortality became less common which consequently contributed to the survival of our race. This transition from polygamy to monogamy gave birth to early stages of civilization that we’re living today. I’m obviously over-simplifying a very complex transitional process, but the truth remains the same. Monogamy made us human!
Not to be mean or anything, but if someone experiences polygamous tendencies, then this brings them closer to neanderthals rather than human beings, just saying…
Revenons à nos moutons – there is another type of women who get caught up in fuck-buddy relationships. I’ve received a bunch of messages where women hope that their fuck-buddy relationship will grow into something more. For example, one girl writes, “We’ve been fuck friends for a year now and I feel like we’re pretty much in a relationship. He introduced me to his friends and his brother but won’t ask me out on real dates. How do I make him change?”
Well, you can’t change him at this point. I’ll go as far as saying that this relationship is doomed for disaster with almost no chance for a solid future together. Her fuck-buddy never had to “fight” for her love or prove himself to her, she was available for sex without any of that fluff. Why would he want to take her out on “real” dates now? What would be his motivation? He can have sex with her without taking her out, so there’s no reason for him to go out of his way. There are always exceptions, of course, but generally a fuck-buddy relationship cannot magically transform into a fairy tail romance.
Girls who willingly dive into fuck-buddy relationships hoping that they would eventually transform into something more, stop fooling yourselves. No matter how good you are in bed, you’re sleeping with an emotionally unavailable man who needs a therapist, not a relationship. A healthy and happy man will never appreciate a strictly sexual relationship with no strings attached, remember that.
I’m already anticipating angry women’s replies about how sometimes they just want sex. Well, if that’s the case, get a dildo and satisfy yourself as much as you want. It doesn’t work like that, eh? You need attention, you need to feel wanted by another human being – if your interest was in simple friction, then a dildo would do the job. So, obviously, you want more than “just sex.”
To conclude, instead of trying to prove to yourself how independent and strong you are, try to learn to respect yourself and your body. Having a fuck-friend does not make you a strong feminist who doesn’t need a man in her life to feel complete. Also remember to never get into a no-strings-attached relationship with someone in hopes of them falling in love with you – you’re better than that. And, most importantly, give your man a chance to fall in love with your mind before he falls in love with your body. *insert Ed Sheeran’s Shape of You song here*