I recently came back from almost 3 weeks of vacation in Europe. I had a blast. Italy is out of this world beautiful. Even if you drive to an Italian village, it’s breathtaking. Everything is so clean and pretty. The architecture is stunning, people are beautiful, the nature is unbelievable. The food is sooooo freaking good. I overindulged on pastas and pizzas, whatever, YOLO. Would I move there? Oh hell yes! But this post is not about that, it’s about two different mentalities: European and North-American.
I am not sure why emancipation is so welcomed and encouraged in Canada. Is it because of the feminist movement? Possibly. Men and women are not equal. That’s right, we have different emotions and feelings, we think differently, we’re different physically. Watch this documentary if you’re curious to know more about our differences –VIDEO.
1) But, no, in Canada men and women are considered to be equal. So if you’re carrying 20 grocery bags, don’t expect your man to help you. You’ll be carrying an equal amount of weight. This is not just something I came up with, I see this every day.
There is no way a man will let you carry stuff in Europe. He’d rather make two trips than have you help him carry things. Obviously, there are exceptions to this rule even in Europe, but I’m talking about the general standards.
2) Why is paying on the first date such a taboo in Canada? The man pays! Sorry, not sorry. It’s a first date. Men in Canada get offended if you don’t offer to split the bill on the first date? Ridiculous.
In Europe, it is common sense that a man pays for the woman. Not because she can’t afford to pay for herself, but because she allows him to take care of her and that, in turn, makes him feel more like a man.
3) I’m going to make a lot of feminists unhappy with this point – traditional roles of a man and a woman is what we all need to stick to. There is nothing wrong with a woman cooking, cleaning and taking care of her man. It’s actually the opposite, it’s what’s going to make your man more of a man. It’s this role reversal specifically that got us all confused in North America. Men now clean and take maternity leaves, while women are out there kicking ass. No, stop!
Don’t get me wrong though, even if a woman is a CEO, she must still remember her role as a woman in the house. Maintain the right hierarchy in the house and you’ll feel like a woman again. So many women complain that their hubbies are not manly enough! It’s our own fault, we turn them into little bitches and then hate them for it.
4) Random acts of chivalry are almost non-existent in Canada because men treat women like they’re men. Men wouldn’t open the car door for their buddies, so why would they do it for you? Ridiculous! I remember trying to “teach” my ex to open the door for me when we’d walk into a building or something and he was like, “What are you? A princess?”. Un-freaking-believable. No, I’m a woman and that’s how you treat a woman. They just don’t get it here.
Believe it or not, in Europe, men do treat women differently. Even a random dude would help you carry heavy bags or open the door for you. These are just small examples, obviously, there’s more to being a man than just carrying bags and opening doors.
Women and men are like the Yin and Yang to each other, we complement each other. We’re different but equal. Women need care and protection, we’re gentle and feminine. Men and women are two pieces of the same puzzle, same, but different. You feel me?
I actually have a bunch of other things I’d love to include in this post, but I gotta run now. Thanks for reading, let me know what you think of this in the comments.
I love Italy by the way <3